Finding an ideal life partner is a major concern in today’s world. As a result, many individuals now turn to matrimonial websites in their quest for a suitable match. While this modern approach seems promising, societal judgments persist, especially towards women’s preferences. The challenges women face in pursuing a happy marriage are often dismissed, as many consider them unimportant in the larger context of marriage.
However, navigating the arranged marriage system as a woman is significantly more challenging in a patriarchal society. Women face immense pressure to conform to societal expectations, often suppressing their physical, emotional, and social needs. When someone dares to break these norms, they face backlash and criticism. A recent incident involving a Delhi woman illustrates this issue, as she was shamed for openly stating her preferences on a matrimonial website.
Delhi Woman Goes Viral for Listing Her Honest Demands
In arranged marriages, women frequently encounter rejection and criticism when they express their desires. Some men on matrimonial sites go as far as demonizing women who candidly share their aspirations.
Recently, a similar incident occurred when a man named Shonee Kapoor posted a screenshot of a woman’s profile from a marriage website. The woman, a 33-year-old psychologist with an annual income between Rs 5 lakh and Rs 7.5 lakh, openly outlined her preferences. She mentioned that she was neither “traditional” nor “family-oriented,” did not cook, did not want children, and was unwilling to relocate for marriage.
Marriage❌
Retirement plan✅She is not looking for a man, she is planning for her retirement from whatever she is doing till now.
🔸Note that she is planning to have dogs instead of kids. pic.twitter.com/ZZRzkZExvs
— ShoneeKapoor (@ShoneeKapoor) September 5, 2024
Viral Post Sparks Backlash
In his post, Shonee dismissed the woman’s profile, suggesting she was seeking a “retirement plan” rather than genuine marriage. This triggered a wave of backlash, primarily from men, who criticized and belittled her choices. The woman faced judgment for not possessing cooking skills, not wanting children, and refusing to move for her spouse.
Over aged
No cooking
No to kids
No to relocation
Not really earning
Not family orientedNOT SURE WHAT SHE BRINGS TO A MARRIAGE
— KARTIK CHAUDHARY (@kartik_chau) September 5, 2024
koi hutia hi hoga jo is ke chakker me fasega…or i am sure she just mentioned 5-7.6 lac income maybe it’s fake …….
— Raoof LaLa (@MansooriRaoof) September 5, 2024
She’s a red flag. Why would a man marry her?
— yatharth* (@CastePatroller) September 5, 2024
When she says she doesn’t want kids ->Run away as far as possible.
— Sahodar – Equality For Men (@SahodarIndia) September 5, 2024
Many Netizens Stand in Support of the Woman
Fortunately, many people rallied to support the woman, arguing that she has every right to clearly express her preferences. They pointed out that she was not deceiving anyone into marriage but merely being honest about her expectations.
Moreover, they emphasized that individuals are free to search elsewhere if her profile does not align with their vision. However, they also highlighted that the criticism and abuse she received were unwarranted and unfair.
She is clear on her future goals or plans, right? She is not forcing anyone to marry her, right? If her goals are not syncing from yours move away. What’s the big deal here?
— Mathayi 🇮🇳 (@mathayipoyi) September 5, 2024
Naah mate. This is wrong. You should not share private information about someone and paint a target on them.
— Ravi Handa (@ravihanda) September 6, 2024
I don’t understand what’s the hue and cry on this,bcoz it’s a female’s profile ?? It’s her life & honesty that prior to marriage, she has disclosed openly her choices .
You shouldn’t have shared her profile along with the pic. It’s invading someone’s privacy & generally illegal…
— Dil Toh Bachcha Hai Ji🇮🇳🚩 (@bronz_O_Genius) September 6, 2024
She is clear and loud about it. Where is the problem?
— Vikram Chaudhary (@dotnetforall) September 5, 2024
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