This Society In Gurgaon Has A Rule Book For Bachelors. Read This Story Of A Bachelor Who Suffered: Knowingly or unknowingly we have justified some rules for us which makes our so called society ideal. The biggest of all is to never let a boy and a girl walk alone if they are not married. The concept of being just friends does not exist here.
If a girl walks around with a guy and she is flaunting herself, well she is a slut! If a guy moves around with a girl and calls her home, they have something fishy going round their head.
Here’s Mohit’s experience, in his own words
Sometimes life in Gurgaon makes you justify your right to live without humiliation. Hello All, Wanted to narrate to you a harrowing experience that I faced at PALM GROVE HEIGHTS (Ardee City, Sector 52, Gurgaon). This society is newly made (just 5 months old) and 70% residents are bachelor tenants. Yet the society administration has taken it upon themselves to morally police them and make their lives as difficult as possible. There are society’s which clearly declare that they don’t allow bachelor tenants – I think that is more noble than what Palm Grove does. So coming back to the story: During my masters at Europe, I had made many friends. One of them, a girl from Barcelona, was coming to Intern here in Delhi at a Human Rights organisation. She wanted a place to stay for 3-4 days before she could rent a flat for herself.
The biggest of all issues in our country this day is the progressive societal norms. If you are a bachelor working in some other city, you have to go hunting for an apartment and yes you will be humiliated many a times in that due course.
Even if the budget fits in, you have to keep waking up to the norms of not coming home late, no loud music, no alcohol, no bringing of the opposite sex in! In short, just stop living your life because you are a bachelor and all eyes are on you.
From denying keeping the bachelors as renters to upfront aversion, the society is yet loud about it. There is news of utmost humiliating incidents from the spinsters across the country. If going by the words of Mohit Agarwal, a resident of Palm Grove Heights, Gurgaon, his friend from Barcelona who wanted a shade for 3-4 days was not allowed to enter his flat as he was an unmarried boy.
Although there was no such formal rule but still it was being reputedly denied by the society management.
The girl eventually had to rent a hotel amid this ruckus. Adding more to the ridicule, the society president called him criminal!
And the biggest of all, because most of the bachelors were having a two wheeler and it was becoming crowded, they were asked to park it outside the society! Now, is anyone being able to bring in some logic to this!
“I and my flatmates had a huge argument with the guards and then the society administration. I even called up my landlord, who supported us totally. He mailed the society admin/ RWA to allow the guest in our flat, but they rejected the request! YES – they rejected it. We even asked for a copy of the society rules which barred entry of girls to bachelor tenants’ house, but there was no such formal rule. (Making such a rule is illegal by the way). So effectively there was no basis from stopping her to enter my house, except that these guys took it upon themselves to morally police us. For 3 hours we negotiated on a topic which was too ridiculous to be negotiated upon. And it was super humiliating.With all the shameful insinuations flying around. Less for us and more for the person who has just landed in India – ironically a mild taste of what human rights violation in India feels like.”
Finally she had to go rent a hotel.
“In all this ruckus, I had called up the society president Amrik Singh Nimbran and said his rules were stupid and didn’t make sense. Next day, he came to my house looking for me. He said “I am retired DG of police, and I know very well how to handle criminals like you”. Criminals, really!!. He even threatened next time we do something like this – he will ensure that we get bashed up! But this is not a one time case, this society has been doing it quite frequently. It has happend to other tenants too. Entering the premises with a group of friends is like entering a club – the bouncer guard decides whether your friends get in or don’t. All their policies are geared to get the bachelors out of here. Why don’t they create a proper policy and stop renting it to bachelors is not understood. They even stopped entry of motorcyles inside the premises, because most bachelors have two wheelers. So you are okay with massive SUVs but not a humble scooty entering the society premises, someone please explain the logic!”
This are not just a day’s issue but something we need to fight for in order to make this society a pleasant place to live in, for one and all! Because, we demand logic and not just stupid unjustifiable norms!